Menopause symptoms can be uncomfortable for some women at the least but unbearable at the worst. Having control of your body and being able to minimise ‘hot flushes’ or fatigue is a wonderful bonus don’t you think? Hypnotherapy is a wonderful tool to give you relief from symptoms and allow you to age without these side-effects! I have uploaded an information sheet with some good advice about how to beat the menopause so you can enjoy life and not let anything stand in your way! Hypnotherapy sessions can also be an excellent way to improve your mind-set for those who may be ‘stuck’ in negativity. It is easy to feel ‘down’ especially if we are surrounded by problems or negative people but we all deserve to live a fulfilled life and we need to break free of this to improve. So for those who want to progress forward and want to feel great- book a session and feel the benefits! Menopause


Anxiety Relief

Anxiety is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can begin mild but progress to severe. Everyone has feelings of anxiety at some point in their life – for example, you may feel worried and anxious about sitting an exam or having a medical test or job interview. However, once the exam or other has been completed and you no longer have a reason to be unsettled but the symptoms remain, you begin to worry yourself about lots of things. This is General Anxiety Disorder (GAD). This is along term condition and you may find your symptoms increase and find you have extra ones too. You also may find that your reactions to things that have been ‘normal’ before, have also changed and you begin to associate symptoms with these thoughts and new situations too. GAD can influence and interfere with your everyday life and this can have consequences if you need to work or have a demanding lifestyle. If you have been around those who have anxiety from a young age, you may find that you too have this and it can be known as a ‘learned behaviour’- where your subconscious mind takes on board what it is seeing and programs the same behaviour into your own mind.
Your mind, although the size of a pomello fruit, is extraordinary and is a complex organ. A person with GAD can have mental and psychological symptoms and feel unsettled most days. In 2013, there were 8.2 million cases of anxiety in the UK and in England, women are almost twice as likely to be diagnosed with anxiety disorders as men. Astonishingly, the one-week prevalence of generalised anxiety in England is 6.6% of the population. That is a lot of people.
Worryingly, in the age of 16-18 years old, 1 in 10 young people experience a mental health disorder according to Green et al (2005) and this is also the findings of Singleton et al (2001) but they raised their age limit to include 19year olds. According to Murphy and Fonagy (2012), over half of all mental ill health starts by age 14 years and 75% develops by age 18 years. Green et al also go further in saying anxiety and depression are the most common mental health difficulties and these have high co-morbidity. According to Layard (2008), school learning, stress tolerance, confidence, motivation, personal relationships will be adversely affected. Similarly, Goodman Joyce and Smith (2011) as well as Green et all (2005) report untreated anxiety or depression can have a significant impact on employment, income and relationship stability in adult life.
According to Anxiety UK, 13.3% of 16 – 19year olds and 15.8% of 20 – 24year olds have suffered from anxiety (neurotic episode). 1.7% of 16 – 19year olds and 2.2% of 20 -24year olds have suffered from a depressive episode and 0.9% of 16 – 19year olds and 1.9% of 20 – 24 year olds have suffered from obsessive compulsive disorder. As you can see these statistics are very worrying and there seems to be a general increase in the numbers year on year.
For those who do have diagnosed/undiagnosed symptoms you may experience any of these below and others too:
• Increased heart rate and you can feel it beating, along with palpitations;
• Increased muscle tension which may cause aches and pains;
• “Jelly legs”;
• Tingling in the hands and feet;
• Hyperventilation (over breathing);
• Dizziness;
• Difficulty in breathing as you feel there is a heavy burden on your chest wall;
• Wanting to use the toilet more frequently;
• Feeling sick and nauseous;
• Tension headaches which may lead for some to migraine;
• Hot flushes which may become worse for those menopausal;
• Increased perspiration;
• Dry mouth;
• Shaking.

So how can we help you to overcome these symptoms and learn to control your emotions once again?
I want you to be aware the techniques I am about to show you do work but if you find you are not making progress, then please seek help. I know this can be hard to do as some may find that they feel a failure contacting someone who can help but remember your GP is the first port of call. You may have little finance to be able to see a qualified therapist but there are people who work for Anxiety UK who charge a very small fee that can help you. Investing in your mental well-being is one of the best things you can do for yourself.
1. Breathing:
One way of becoming calmer is to breathe slower in through your nose and then blow out as you exhale from your mouth slowly too. You can pop your hand on your chest to connect with yourself and feel the rise and fall of your chest wall as you inhale and exhale. Breathe in slowly and gently to the count of 4 in through your nose and breathe out by slowly and gently blowing out from your mouth to the count of 6. As you breathe slowly the gas exchange will improve and you will begin to become more relaxed. You can say to yourself as you breathe in.. calmness and as you exhale.. relaxed. You can imagine breathing in a beautiful colour and breathing out a different colour too. Being aware of your breathing is mindful breathing as this is what you are thinking about, nothing else. Do this exercise for 5 minutes every few hours if you are able to and as you are breathing in, if you can only do this to the count of 3, then its OK.

2. Open mouth wide and jaw drop technique:
Open your mouth very wide (don’t dislocate your jaw please- be sensible and safe) and at the same time be mindful of your lower jaw. Drop your lower jaw so it feels at ease but keep your mouth open. As your jaw drops and your mind concentrates on this jaw, your nervous system makes changes to the messages send up to your brain which in turn makes you feel relaxed. You can do this exercise every time you feel tense for a minute or so and you will notice changes in how you react in time.

3. Talking:
Talking about how you feel is one of the most important things I encourage you to do. They say, ‘a problem shared is a problem halved’! Find someone you can trust and feel safe around. Sit in a safe environment and somewhere if you need to walk away quickly, then you can do so. Never feel trapped as this will make your symptoms increase. Don’t hold your breath as you are doing things or in between sentences as this can distort the gas exchange in your lungs and make you feel worse. If the weather is good, being outside in nature and breathing in all the lovely oxygen can improve your mind-set.

4. Exercise:
Having an exercise routine and putting lots of effort into this is a great way of releasing frustration. When you feel yourself becoming hot and sweaty then your endorphins get released and you begin to feel better. Again, be safe and sensible, don’t overdo any exercise as you may make your joints ache. Build up any exercise routine gradually and pace yourself. Alternatively, if you are fortunate to have sufficient to have a personal trainer, you may find this beneficial.

5. Gratitude:
Think of how lucky you are and those less fortunate than yourself. I know this seems absurb but it can also be helpful as a reality check for yourself. If I am having a low moment, I think of homeless folk who can’t change the system and want to better themselves but can’t. You can do a gratitude diary and name 5 things that you are grateful for each day. Part of this exercise is not only to name these things but actually feel how blessed you are for having them inside of you- that’s the sensations you feel when you tell yourself you are grateful for XYZ. It is no good writing things down for the sake of it, you have to truly believe what you are saying and feel it inside!

6. Understand what is happening to you:
Our prefrontal cortex is involved in thinking, planning, and social behaviour and helps us to control our emotional responses. The most crucial part of our emotional system is the ‘limbic system’ and the part that plays a central role in the regulation of emotions, is called the amygdala. The amygdala is central to the formation of fear and anxiety-related memory and has been shown to be hyperactive in anxiety disorders. Communication between various parts of the brain takes place through neurotransmitters. The thalamus part in our brain (known as the gatekeeper) takes in all information and decides where to send it to via these neurotransmitters. Wherever those messages go to, will depend if they are to be stored as a long-term memory or short. Long-term memories can include bad experiences. This means if we have a bad experience and have lots of symptoms associated with this, the next time you have a fright or similar, the symptoms that you feel will be the ones stored already in your mind from before. The mind thinks it is sending you these symptoms to protect you. We have to change the thought process or ‘break the chain of events’ to re-wire new thought and sensation patterns to become happier and more comfortable. To do this, all the exercises I am explaining here will help you send new messages via the neurotransmitters and alleviate those symptoms.

7. Stop saying ‘anxiety’.
Our brain responds to reading words, saying words and feeling words, in fact it responds to all your senses. Imagine seeing and reading the word anxiety or stress constantly- in fact your brain will see this more often than it normally would if you weren’t having these symptoms. I tell my clients they have antennae on top of their head and they are scanning constantly for this word or feeling unconsciously. To stop this from happening, we must stop saying the word, stop looking for advice about this issue and concentrate on doing the exercises or other things to occupy your mind. The more you look for something and find it, the more you reprogram your mind for it. So saying anxiety (or depressed, stress or any other word) regularly in conversation, really isn’t helping you as your subconscious mind keeps embedding this and you can’t improve! This also includes writing how you feel down- the more you do it and they are negative feelings, the more you re-wire and hard wire them into your brain!

8. Eat healthily and drink plenty of water.
Your body needs 30mls of water per one Kg of your body weight. If you are engaging in heavy work or doing exercises or it’s a hot day and you are perspiring, then you will need more. Eating the right foods is so important as we really do need minerals and vitamins in our diet. In a recent study in Japan it was found that low levels of vitamin B6 and iron may actually trigger the chemical changes in the brain responsible for panic attacks, hyperventilation and other forms of anxiety. One accepted theory of anxiety development is that it is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain and a connection with serotonin. Serotonin is responsible for triggering the reward and pleasure centres of our brain and is synthesised from the amino acid tryptophan. Both iron and vitamin B6 play an important role in this process but an absence of these nutrients can cause a decrease of serotonin levels. I’m sure you are all aware antidepressant medication work by boosting serotonin levels. Foods high in vitamin B6 include fish, chicken, tofu, pork, beef, sweet potatoes, bananas, potatoes, avocados, and pistachios. Foods with iron in them tend to be dark green leafy vegetables such as spinach but also liver is a good source too. It also includes fortified cereals, beef, shellfish, dried fruit, beans, lentils, dark leafy greens, dark chocolate, quinoa, mushrooms, and squash seeds. Thyroid hormones regulate the amount of serotonin (feel good factor hormone), norepinephrine and gamma-aminobutyric acid (all neurotransmitters) released into your brain but if insufficient thyroid hormones are released, it can also cause anxiety. Thyroxin stimulates the metabolic system and regulates the oxygen consumption. Another chemical that may cause anxiety or reduce it, is dopamine. Dopamine not only produces feelings of happiness, it is also the same neurotransmitter that produces feelings of irritability. This is because dopamine is responsible for regulating every person’s emotions. It is the same chemical that helps people decide different alternatives in order to reach the most appropriate decision. Foods we eat don’t contain dopamine as it does not have the capability to transfer directly from the blood to the brain. Essential amino acids from food serve as precursors that help boost the production of dopamine and are better known as tyrosine.
Foods that are rich sources of tyrosine include:
1. Soy products – such as tofu, soy milk and cheeses
2. Proteins – Egg whites, salmon and turkey
3. Fruit and nuts – Avocados and almonds
4. Green leafy vegetables – spirulina or mustard greens.

There are many ways to overcome those sensations and within these 8 bits of advice I have given you food for thought. Only you can change your emotions as they belong to you and nobody can control them but yourself. You have a basic understanding of neurology and how your mind works and by following the guidance above, you can actually change how you react and think. Don’t judge yourself and don’t take on board other’s opinions of you- that’s their issue not yours. Do this for you and want to deeply want (deep desire) change so you can fulfil your dreams. You deserve a good happy life so make those changes now!


Using a Walking Stick

Walking Sticks/Cane.
Walking aids are an excellent resource but can be problematic or cause injury if used incorrectly. Sticks can be made of many materials- wood, metal, man-made or other. In fact I have seen several people who have carved their own stick. As sticks became more widely available and a fashion accessory, more and more people are seen with them. However, as an observer, I am acutely aware of how a high proportion of these users are in fact using this aid inappropriately. Some almost carry it, others bend forward with it as its too low and others lean to one side which in time will cause other medical issues such as hip pain.
Your muscles in your spine will try and compensate for this imbalance but eventually they will become mal-aligned. The concept of having a stick is to improve balance and generally they are light -weight, can be folded or another variation is a tripod. Sticks are to transfer weight to your wrist /or forearm and not to take your full body weight, although the tripod is designed to take more of your weight. There usually is a rubber covering at the bottom of the stick for stability purposes and the handles come in various designs but the one you need should be comfortable to grip and feel safe.
As I commented above, there is an issue with the length of sticks that some people are using. As a rule of thumb when you stand up tall with elbow slightly flexed, your stick should ideally be at the side of your wrist. Occupation therapists may indicate the stick needs to be around half your height in size but remember to take your shoe height into consideration.
Again, I observe people using the stick on the ‘affected’ side but it is designed to be used on the other side for balance and stability. However, if you are using the stick for support only and don’t have a weakness, then use it in your non-dominant hand and allow the weight to discharge into hand or down into the stick. Think about how we walk- we step forward with one foot and at the same time our arm on the opposite side has the same motion E.G. left foot forward, right arm swings forward or visa versa. This also allows the dominant hand to do other things! When walking with a weakness on one leg, it is important to place the stick in the opposite hand to go forward together. The stick takes the strain.
To attempt stairs or steps will obviously depend on what your issue is and how well you can use your affected leg. Do not attempt stairs or steps if you are not confident and have not been shown how to do this by a trained health professional. If the staircase/steps have a handrail please use it. You must be facing forward and not at an angle. Pop your stick in the other hand and move your good leg first, followed by the other. When you are coming down steps or stairs please use the handrail again and as above, pop your stick in the other hand. This time you move your affected leg first with the cane at the same time and follow on with the other leg. As I said earlier, the stick takes the strain. If the stairs or steps have no handrail keep your stick on the unaffected hand (the hand it is normally in) and lead with the cane, following with affected leg then the good leg.
If you do not feel confident going up and down steps it is advisable to have someone with you for support. Alternatively you can go up and down on your bottom but that obviously would depend on your injury. For those who like a stick as a ‘just in case something happens’ please don’t use it going up or downstairs as it could be dangerous. You can come downstairs facing the stairs holding onto a handrail for support.
All information in this article has been given in good faith and for general guidance only and in no way to overshadow any guidance from a trained health professional. Please follow their recommendations. If you need to use a stick please contact a Physiotherapist or Occupational Therapist who can advise you. Alternatively, you can also use a search engine to look up ‘How to use a walking stick’. Safety is of major importance when using any equipment.
Susan May Lawrence
LLM(Health), LLB (Hons), RGN, RM, PN Cert, Dip CH, Senior Qualified Hypnotherapy Practitioner (GHSC), Dip Sports, PTSD Practitioner, Occupational Stress Consultant, Train the Trainer, Past Life Regression, & Future Life Progression, Hypno-Birthing/Fertility, NLP/Advanced EFT Practitioner, Smoking Cessation, Personal Development Coach, Reiki Master, Magnetism & Mesmerism Practitioner, Crystal Wand Facial Therapy Practitioner, Colour Therapist, Meditation Tutor, Lymphatic Drainage Massage, Ear Acupuncture Practitioner. OldPain2Go Practitioner, STEPS Practitioner & Trainer, EMDR (rapid eye movement therapy), Dreamscaper Trainer.
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